“When it rains, look for the rainbow, when there is darkness, look for the stars.”
Resilient people have a higher capacity to be more grateful and create stronger and more meaningful relationships. Resilience is the ability to recover from adversity and persevere until reaching the proposed objectives despite the challenges. Day by day we face challenges, we get a rubber from the car, you arrive at your children’s school, you realize that one of them had the project on the dining room table, you need to get calm to work today is the day you have the task of guiding your team to achieve their goals for the month. Resilience is this ability that can help us survive in our worst days and get afloat in others.
According to Dr. Chris Peterson, author of the book “The Good Life,” “Resilience is the ability to give a good fight.” Martin Seligman, is the precursor of positive psychology. Positive psychology aims to develop and nurture the positive aspects of human behavior, through scientific studies and effective intervention methods to achieve emotional satisfaction in individuals. Seligman explains that gratitude is an attitude where the individual is shown to be grateful, even when they don’t see what he has. “When we have a kind gesture or gratitude, there is a momentary increase in well-being in people that no exercise can achieve.” Think every time you do something good for someone or someone does something good for you, how do you feel?
Today we face significant challenges, some are small, and others are great. When they happen every day, we begin to think that nothing good happens around us. We do not want to keep fighting and even believe that it is not worth helping others if one does not occur good things. We put on a shell to protect ourselves, and we don’t see the good things that do happen and for which we can be grateful. The little good things that happen around us also come together and can cause significant changes not only in one but in the people around you. We have experienced this all those who have suffered catastrophic events such as hurricanes Katrina, Harvey, Irma, or Maria. Our neighbors were our immediate families, stopped being invisible. The strangers became angels of goodwill, we joined in one cause: to get ahead, we learned to be resilient and to treasure the little great things around us. Even the bees became a cause to fight and keep them alive against wind and tide!
What science tells us about gratitude?
What science tells us about gratitude is that when we practice it regularly (even once a day), it can: ● decrease stress, ● increase happiness, ● lower blood pressure, and ● inspire more goodness and more gratitude. The person who does a kind act and the one who receives it experience these benefits, but anyone who observes the act of kindness experiences the same interests!
What does science tell us about gratitude?
● Gratitude reduces stress and plays a vital role in overcoming trauma.
● Gratitude builds resilience by recognizing everything you are grateful for, even in the worst moments.
● Gratitude has the power to heal, the ability to bring us hope, and the power to help us cope with the most challenging times.
There are several strategies that we can use to build resilience; here are some:
- A gratitude journal can help us be more resilient; it helps us see beyond what our eyes perceive. Having a diary helps us affirm the benefits that surround our lives and add tools to our emotional piggy bank to get ahead. It allows us to reflect on what we are grateful for and leads us to perceive more things to be thankful for.
- Remember bad things or moments. Difficult moments in our lives can refine and deepen gratitude. They remind us that we should not take things for granted. They teach us to find solutions, be more flexible, and determined.
- Show kindness, kindness, and gratitude. Express your gratitude by taking action. Do something for those in your life for whom you are grateful and even do kind acts to those you do not know. Random acts of kindness multiply, causing other states of happiness and hope. When we practice kindness, kindness, and gratitude daily become routine things that we do naturally.
Dr. Robert Emmons said: “Gratitude implies humility: a recognition that we could not be who we are or where we are in life without the contributions of others. Being grateful is a recognition that there are good and pleasant things in the world”.
Dr. Robert Emmons said: “Gratitude implies humility: a recognition that we could not be who we are or where we are in life without the contributions of others. Being grateful is a recognition that there are good and pleasant things in the world. “
You can write a letter of thanks to someone who has changed your life for the better. Think of a colleague, a teacher at school, or even a family member. You can also write a letter celebrating and describing your strengths, abilities, values, behaviors, and actions that have had an effect and will continue to have an effect on others in a positive way.After writing your letter to someone else, send it to us, let’s express the positive impact it has created on us. Read the letter you have written to yourself, as often as necessary (it can be weekly, monthly), we often do not take the time to recognize all the gifts we bring to others.
Taking the time to reflect on how good there is and happens in our lives gives us the gift of gratitude. The world will always show us the good and the bad, but today we spend time grateful for what we have. In this way, we can fill our emotional piggy bank and cultivate our own resilience. Keeping the emotional piggy bank very close to one allows us to remember that we always make deposits to have the tools that will help us move forward.
Practice gratitude today and always so that in times when we encounter challenges in our lives, we can have the ability to be resilient.
- On waking: send a positive text message
- At breakfast: make it healthy
- When talking to someone: mention they’re positive aspects and congratulate them for them
- When leaving: pick up the trash let’s be grateful for our planet, our home
- When you go to bed: write a list of things for which you are grateful
The domino effect of kindness and gratitude: every time you show gratitude and respect towards someone, you provide a feeling that endures and inspires you to do something kind and respectful for another person.
Educate the heart to give compassion, acceptance, and tolerance will allow you to navigate resiliently through this world. Pass the key to create a better world, teach others to be and do better.
The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation http://www.randomactsofkindness.org
Dalai Lama Center: For Peace + Education.